Posted in: Cancer by Dr. Tarang Krishna Posted Date: 21 Aug, 2015
Really a heart-rending sight to see someone we love is going through the trauma of Cancer. Everything seems silk smooth until the confirmation of the disease. Stress about it, medication and therapies to control and cure it becomes the part of the person’s daily routine. But it is said that every cloud has a silver lining. And for our dear one with the cancer we could be that silver lining by showing our support every time. Let’s talk about the various methods for being a pillar in the life of people with cancer.
1. Keeping them Social: Even if a person gets affected by cough and cold he wants to plonk on the bed for the entire day. So we can understand what a cancer patient would be going through. Never ignore them and leave them alone. Make sure they talk and share their views with you. Make them mingle with people and behave with them as you would do normally.
2. Offer Advice: Don’t be all judgmental about a cancer patient. Rather, if you know a professional who is really an expert in handling cancer therapies and medication, then advice your loved one about that expert.
3. Don’t forget to “Touch”: Just because your loved one has cancer now that does not make him untouchable. If you meet him make a mental note of hugging and shaking hands with him. This could really comfort him emotionally.
4. Use a patronizing tone: Talking every day about cancer could severely depress your dear one. Rather than asking how sick your friend is feeling you could use a patronizing tone and ask him if he is feeling better than yesterday.
5. Listen Actively: Even if your loved one does not expect a response from your end then too lend you ear carefully to what he or she has to say.
6. Act Considerately: Make sure you ask for the permission of your friend before you plan to visit him or her. In case if you find your friend a bit restless in your presence or she/he needs a rest then prepare yourself to leave after making arrangements for his/her nap.
7. Don’t scare them: People have this habit of narrating incidents of people with same disease. They would sit beside the patient and narrate to them the death counts and consequences of the people with same disease. Avoid it.
8. Bear with your Loved one’s mood: Don’t take it personal if your loved one gets angry at you or stays quiet in your presence. It is usual with people with cancer.
Lastly, always provide your support to your loved one who have cancer and don’t knowingly create situation that could hurt your loved one emotionally.